Time is moving fast my little one. Since the 20-week ultrasound, everything is moving forward like a steamroller. I’m not complaining, on the contrary. I am so excited to see you!
I do have to say that I am a bit scared because our delivery day is coming soon. I am afraid it will hurt, fearful of the unknown, scared by stories I have heard, scared of how long labour will be or if there might be complications for you and me. I am starting to learn to trust lift, trust my abilities and deal with the unknown as calmly as possible. I can control some things, but I also have to let go when facing stuff I can’t control. I will do my best, and I know your father will too. Together we will get through this.
I know that if you were to come now, you would have a chance to survive. But don’t, okay? Your level of developments means that coming soon would be dangerous. In my tummy you are warm, and your eyelids are opening, even if you can’t see much. You are accumulating more fat under your skin, and you weigh 750-870 grams and measure 32-33 cm. With your increased weight, I have to bend my back to support my protruding tummy. A brown line just appeared between my belly button and pubis. This is called a pregnancy line. I read somewhere that the separation of the abdominal muscles causes it, and it will disappear after your birth.
Your father and I talk about our maternity, paternity and parental leave. How we want to experience your arrival, organise our leaves for the good of everyone. Your father will talk to his friends about their experiences, choices, benefits and costs and then make a choice together. Your dad told me how his childhood with his father went, his presence, the games they played together, life in the home. He sees it as a model. He often wonders how he can become a good father, lover, worker, friend, man all at the same time. I am wondering the same thing about me and motherhood. I guess we are adapting to our new roles.
- If you have a fever over 38 degrees or swelling of the face, neck, ankles, or you have sudden intense headaches, problems with your vision, stomach pain or bleeding, immediately talk to your health professional. These signs can be associated with pregnancy complications that can start about now. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure! When in doubt, ask!
- Think about some basic babywear for their return home.
- Contractions may start now, but they should never be constant. Three in a row might be okay, but not every 10 minutes and a hot bath didn’t stop them. Call your birthing centre to ask about what you should do.
- You can also write down your desires regarding what you want from the nurses and other caregivers during labour and childbirth.
- Have you started preparing the baby’s room? Read these articles about paints, stains and other products you should consider when renovating. I got advice from a pro.
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